I want to leave my partner due to domestic abuse

Make sure you have a safety plan in place even if you are not planning to leave straight away. Try to leave while the perpetrator is not at home so s/he cannot try to stop you. If possible, arrange a place to stay before you leave and get advice about custody if you have any children. If you have to leave in an emergency because your partner has assaulted you, call the police. They may be able to arrest her / him, which will give you some time to leave.

Domestic violence helpline for women and men

You can contact Live Fear Free (external website), which is open 24 hours / seven days a week on 0808 80 10 800.

Staying in your home

If you have suffered domestic abuse or violence, you may want to stay in your home, get the perpetrator out and make your home safer to stay in, especially if you have strong family links or children’s schooling in the area.

Call the police

In some cases, the best way to get the perpetrator to leave will be to get her / him arrested. This may only get her / him out of the way for a short time but, if s/he is charged, then s/he may be either held in custody ormay be given bail only on condition that s/he does not go near you. If a criminal offence has beencommitted, s/he may also be prosecuted and given a custodial sentence.

Make your home safer

There are several measures you can take to make you safer in your home, for example by:

  • fitting more secure locks, door chains, and peepholes for the front doors
  • reinforcing doors and door frames
  • getting window locks, bars, and grills installed
  • installing alarms, CCTV and security lighting
  • improving fire safety measures
  • changing telephone numbers and screening calls

The police can give you further advice on security measures. Make sure your local police station knows that you have been a victim of domestic abuse.

Occupation Orders

Occupation Orders are court orders that extend or restrict a person's right to occupy a home. They can, for example, give you the right to stay in the family home where you didn't previously have that right (for example, where the tenancy is a sole tenancy in the perpetrators name), or exclude the perpetrator from thehome.

An Occupation Order can be applied for separately, or as part of other family law proceedings (divorce orcustody proceedings, for example). The details of the order you can apply for will depend on yourrelationship to the perpetrator and the type of accommodation you live in. Occupation Orders can have a power of arrest attached so, for example, if the perpetrator has been excluded from the home, s/he can be arrested if she tries to break in. The perpetrator can be given a custodial sentence or fined for breaching the order.

You will need to seek the advice of a solicitor to get an Occupation Order. They cannot guarantee yoursafety, and will only last for a limited time, so you will need to take further action to settle who stays in theproperty in the long-term.

Getting an order or injunction

You will need to get advice from a solicitor who specialises in family law. The solicitor will help you to make an application to the court for an injunction. Sometimes, injunctions can be sought as a part of family law (divorce or custody) proceedings. The judge will consider the evidence of the violence against you, and whether:

  • the behaviour you want to stop is unlawful
  • the perpetrator is likely to carry out the actions
  • there is a likelihood of harm to you
  • the behaviour can be clearly explained so the perpetrator will understand what it is they are banned from doing
  • the order or injunction is necessary for your protection